Stop Being So Flaky

Author: David Wilber

The Bible says, "Be doers of the word, and not hearers only" (James 1:22). It’s not enough just to know about Torah. Followers of Yeshua must also live Torah. Part of that means keeping your word and not being flaky.

If a man vows a vow to the Lord, or swears an oath to bind himself by a pledge, he shall not break his word. He shall do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth. (Numbers 30:2)

God commanded us to keep our promises. This is the duty of every disciple of Yeshua. Indeed, our Messiah taught that we should be such a people of integrity that making an oath would be unnecessary because our simple "yes" or "no" is trusted and sufficient (Matthew 5:34-37). The Torah is an expression of God’s character. He is reliable and therefore instructs His people to be reliable.

A "flake" is someone who makes promises but doesn’t follow through with them. They are unreliable and lazy. They are the people who make plans to be somewhere, but then they don’t show up. If they have the decency to at least put forth some effort to inform you that they’re flaking out on you, they'll usually just send a text message at the last minute. The flaky person cannot commit to anything.

Ultimately flakiness comes down to a lack of love and consideration for others, which breaks the second part of the greatest commandment to "love your neighbor as yourself." If people truly loved their neighbor as themselves, they wouldn’t be flaky. That’s because everyone who has dealt with a flaky person knows how frustrating it can be.

When we who claim to follow the God of Israel flake out on others, we profane the name—that is, the reputation—of God. Believers are called to be "imitators of God" (Ephesians 5:1). Is your life a representation of God’s faithfulness, or do you make God out to be an unreliable flake?

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About David Wilber

David’s heart is to minister to God’s people by helping them rediscover the validity and blessing of God’s Torah and help prepare them to give an answer to anyone who asks about the hope within them (1 Peter 3:15).

In addition to his book, A Christian Guide to the Biblical Feasts, David has written several theological and devotional articles available on various Messianic and Christian websites. David currently serves as a Bible teacher and writer for Freedom Hill Community and as a writer for 119 Ministries.